10 Subtle
Things Women Do That Men Secretly Love
Ever wondered why some women seem to get all the attention
from men? Or why a blessed few among us attract men to themselves like bees to
wildflowers, while the rest of us are relegated to being wallflowers?
I can never write enough about the inordinate amount of time
women spend trying to perfect their look—hair, makeup, killer bodies—which is
frankly great, but can only take you so far. After all, amidst a whole crowd of
women bred on Cosmo and Vanity Fair, there really has to be something that sets
you apart from the crowd and makes you grab attention.
Now, this is where I come in. Contained within me is the
full knowledge of this infinitely mysterious world of man-woman relationships
called ‘dating’ (with a teeny little help from the boys too, of course). And
after reading our primer, men could’ve come from Mars, or Mauritius, it
wouldn’t matter, because you’re gonna catch ‘em all!
NOTE: The author
claims to have used these techniques herself, with varying degrees of success.
Let’s start with a roadmap
Consider a scenario where you’re just trying to get the
attention of the guy you like (or guys. After all, the more, the merrier!).
Plain enough? Now, the ten things given below are things most women
unconsciously do but do these at the right moment, and you have a winner at
hand!
10. When you smile at him out of
nowhere
No, this doesn’t mean you lurk behind walls, or potted
plants, and jump out at him from nowhere. That is scary. That should not be
done.
Instead, smile at him when he’s least expecting it. Do you
see him regularly on your way to class? Do you, perhaps, encounter him at the
snack counter over coffee breaks? Has he recently moved into your neighborhood?
A casual smile, but one that’s filled with warmth, will
definitely get you his attention (and in case you haven’t progressed to
speaking yet, a nod, a ‘hey there’ and a phone number in subsequent days). Keep
at it!
P.S. If you’re
feeling particularly confident on some day, throw in a quick wink (not the
one-eyed I’m-such-a-bruh kind, but both eyes) with your smile. Like you’re lit
from the inside, and watch him light up in return! (If he doesn’t, then my
sincere apologies but this is when I suggest the movie ‘He’s just not that into
you’ to you. You get the drift.)
9. When you tuck a lock of hair
behind your ear
Your mass of hair is your personal weapon of mass
destruction.
It doesn’t matter whether you have straight or curly, long
or short hair. It’s an open secret, men will always notice a woman that’s
fiddling with her hair.
So, the next time a lock of your hair is falling all over
your face, or you’re opening your hair from that crazy tight ponytail or bun,
make sure you do it within his line of sight (discreetly of course, like you
didn’t know he was there).
8. When you laugh at his jokes
Men pride themselves on their sense of humor. So, when they
make a woman laugh, they’re bound to feel special (also because everyone knows
that between the two, women definitely have the better sense of humor. I mean,
sorry to burst your bubble you guys, but arm farts really aren’t that funny).
Which is why, laugh. That burst of amusement and the way
even your eyes chime with laughter—these are all things that men have written
about endlessly in their songs for eons now. Encourage all of that by laughing
at his jokes, often, and with sincerity. Engage him in conversation, bring out
your playful side and show him that you can be fun to hang out with too!
7. When you ask him if you look good
today
I know. When it comes to fashion advice, men are the last
people we want to turn to.
Which is why I’m not asking you to ask him what you should
wear (that should ALWAYS be your prerogative), nor seek his advice between an
A-line or a skater (chances are he won’t be able to tell anyway), but when you
ask him small things like ‘if he thinks you look good today,’ you’re conveying
to him that you value his opinion and that it matters to you. Just that much is
enough to make any guy feel special about himself.
Simple beings, aren’t they?
6. When you hang out with him sans
makeup
Makeup is great, and all men love women who make an effort
to get dressed for them. But if you’ve spent even an iota of time with members
of the opposite sex, you’ll know that most men prefer seeing women in their
natural settings, comfortable in their skin. Aside from the fact that they love
that you feel comfortable enough around them to just be, they also get the
sense of seeing the real you that not everyone gets to see.
With this in mind, the next time you want to unwind but don’t want to overdo it, just invite him over for a comfy movie on the couch, or a midnight date at the local pizzeria. Make it fun. Invent rules like
‘baggy shirts, pajamas and mussed up hair only’. And remember steps 10, 9, and 8, they’re the only ornamentation you’ll ever need!
5. When you ask him to help you out
with something
No, I’m not asking you to abandon any feminist principles.
As a woman myself, I’m a supporter too.
But call it their innate chivalry, or just the fact that
they get to feel they can be of some use, men like it when you ask them for
help. Be it a container that Just. Won’t. Open., or getting something off a
high shelf (I’m convinced that whoever came up with the concept of high shelves
and not those at arm level, was a man himself), men like feeling needed and
coming to the rescue.
So, the next time you’re faced with one of those dratted
containers again, step aside and allow him to get it. And while he’s at it,
smile to yourself about who’s really helping whom.
Step 10 and 5 both accomplished, voila!
4. When you get possessive
Okay, this one’s always a little bit thrilling.
Just like you fancy the dashing young hero from all those
historical romance novels who’s just the right degree of possessive, men find
it hot when you claim your territory too. The world of dating is competitive,
and eligible men are few and far in between, so it’s only natural that other
women might be trying to get his attention. STOP THEM. RIGHT AWAY.
But do that with panache, of course. No guy wants a catty
woman by his side. Catty is uncool.
P.S. If he’s the
kind that encourages the attention of other women, however, dump him like a hot
potato. He isn’t worth it.
3. When you get excited about
something
Whenever you have big news and can’t wait to tell him. Or
when you’re so excited that your happiness can’t be contained and you’re
jumping up and down like a maniac—all of these are very special moments for him
too. The combination of your joy, the loss of your normal self-control, and the
fact that you consider this one guy important enough to actually share it with
him on a priority basis, is reason enough for him to share your excitement just
as much!
Remember, just like women, men like being made to feel
special too. It’s a human need.
2. When you try out his clothes
Oh, he might make a million faces about how you’re ‘ruining’
his clothes, but don’t be fooled, he secretly loves it. He loves the sense of
ownership you have with him, that you’re comfortable enough with him to not
bother with the rules.
So, continue raiding his wardrobe (just don’t ruin whatever
you take) and ask him ‘if you look good in it’. Don’t be surprised then if he
pretends not to be using a T-shirt and offers it to you either, we all know he
wants to!
1. When you touch him without reason
Human bonds are about physical expressions too. Considering
our development, being nursed by our mothers, and passed around from member to
member of the family, touch is the one sense that most people instinctively
respond to.
It comes as no surprise then that men love it when you
unconsciously reach out and touch them in different ways—a fleeting touch to
the arm or shoulder when talking, when you reach up to pick something off his
hair, a warm hug—all expressions that speak volumes, and that men love. (Plus,
if he’s into you, he’s bound to mirror these actions whether he realizes it or
not. Watch out for the signs!)
And with this, we come to the end of
our list
Try one, some, or all of these, and let us know if they
worked for you in the comments section below. We look forward to hearing from
you.
Good luck, and godspeed!